Celibacy in marriage was ordained by God
Almighty for those travellers of spiritual path who wanted to reach God even while remaining in Grihastha ashram
(family life)! Celibacy primarily relates to male celibacy as women are not required to practice female
celibacy! The intention behind practice of physical celibacy always was abstaining from sexual indulgence. But
is it the only cosmic truth behind act of celibacy?
The physical aspect of celibacy constitutes
10% of total job... 90% celibacy always been practiced mentally! For reaching stage of self realization... god
realization... enlightenment our transmuting sexual energy was an absolute must! This was only possible via path
of physical celibacy... abstaining from a sexual relationship! By conserving this potential cosmic energy human
beings succeeded in cutting shackles of karma forever.
Celibacy within marriage was difficult to
practice as the other partner... the female partner may never agree to remain celibate! And why should one? To
come out of this predicament God Almighty ordained a maximum of two sexual indulgences per month (one was
desirable)! Bhagavad Gita of Hinduism is absolutely clear on this point. To focus on the spiritual goal of
life... celibacy within marriage had to be practiced... we had no other alternative!
Speaking from personal experience I can only
say... celibacy in marriage was extremely difficult to practice! To please the other partner while traveling
path of spirituality seemed almost impossible... prime reason why sacred scriptures of Hinduism advised all
travellers of spirituality to remain bachelors throughout life! While remaining in Grihastha ashram (family
life)... celibacy truly was very difficult to practice... neigh impossible!
Ramana Maharishi... Swami Vivekananda remained bachelors all their life! Ramana Maharishi reached stage of
enlightenment in his lifetime. Swami Vivekananda also could have easily gained enlightenment in his lifetime... had
he wanted to! But goal of life for Swami Vivekananda was community service! Both Ramana Maharishi and Swami
Vivekananda were perfect practitioners of Brahmacharya Vrata... remaining celibate on spiritual
Bhagavad Gita clearly states that path of
spirituality... goal of enlightenment was never meant for ladies! Female celibacy was not a necessity for women
unless they desired to travel path of pure spirituality. In the entire history of mankind only two women reached
stage of enlightenment... saint philosopher Gargi and Maitreyi... the second dutiful wife of Sage
Jnanavalakya... compiler and composer of most voluminous Upanishad Brihadarankya!
Ladies can gain enlightenment but it was
even more difficult than men gaining enlightenment! Because of imbibed feeling of Moha (extreme emotional
attachment) the path of spirituality... enlightenment was never meant for women! Vow of celibacy must always be
undertaken by men... never women! Marital celibacy truly was a hazard... extremely difficult to practice! Sri
Ramakrishna Paramhansa and his wife Sharda lived more like brother and sister... than husband and wife! Sri
Ramakrishna Paramhansa worshipped his wife as an embodiment of goddess Kali!
Apart from travellers of spirituality...
celibacy also played a vital role in lives of those who wanted to gain absolute success in life! In such cases
both male and female celibacy was successful. By practising celibacy truthfully... every male and female could
reach any goal of life fixed by them! By transmuting sexual energy towards the only goal of life...
practitioners of celibacy truly can create wonders... manifest destiny forever!
By practising physical aspect of celibacy... one got different results than practising mental celibacy! For
practitioners of mental celibacy... nothing was impossible in life! Any goal in life could be easily accomplished
by practitioners of mental celibacy! By following path of mental celibacy as detailed in Bhagavad Gita of Hinduism,
I finally realized God in 1993 at 37 years of which. This is my last manifestation on mother
Having reached cosmic end of life... I shall
enter kingdom of God (Vaikuntha in Hinduism)... the moment I leave my mortal frame! This stage when we as a soul
atman gained absolute purity was termed moksha salvation. In Hinduism a soul is termed atman. Coping with
celibacy while married though difficult... extremely difficult... was not impossible! If our goal of life was
clear... nothing in world could sway us from reaching our goal in life.
This was how God Almighty ordained the
spiritual system to be! In brief, I would again emphasize that celibacy must always be practiced with caution!
The benefits of celibacy were numerous but it definitely affected family life! Celibacy in marriage must be
practiced with utmost caution as our other partner may not be totally agreeable in the matter! But by indulging
twice a month... one could easily follow precepts of celibacy as detailed in Bhagavad Gita!
For travellers of spiritual path my sincere
advice is... never marry! For those who wanted to manifest absolute success in life... my only advice is...
practice celibacy in marriage with caution! Both marriage and celibacy can go hand-in-hand if the female partner
agreed to it in totality! But in most cases... the female partner would never agree for such an arrangement! In
such cases coping with celibacy in married life becomes a serious problem leading to
It is our life... it is our journey! We have
to decide our goal of life. If we take firm decisions in the early stages of life... we would never suffer from
depression in later stages! To avoid depression in celibacy... we must indulge in celibacy as and whenever
possible... never strictly imposing it on other partner! Celibacy must always be practiced voluntarily... never
by force! Voluntary celibacy was always successful compared to forced celibacy as practiced in
Vijay Kumar "Atma Jnani" ... The Man who Realized God in 1993! Send your
A to Z of Celibacy in Marriage explained in words everyone can easily understand and
fathom. More on marriage and celibacy - celibacy within marriage can be found at : http://www.vijaykumar.org/Celibacy/
... Vijay Kumar - 17 July
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